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(unless I'm already following you, in which case I'll auto-accept)

so, hey, are you on DreamWidth? if you are, I'm elynne over there, here's a public post https://elynne.dreamwidth.org/2310931.html, leave a comment if you'd like to hang out there!

it's in my bio.
it's in my pinned intro.
IT'S IN MY DAMN USER NAME.

DM ME OR I WILL NOT APPROVE A FOLLOW REQUEST. (unless I'm already following you, in which case auto-accept)

TWO FOLLOW REQUESTS WITH NO DM = BLOCK.

feel like I should be posting this every damn day. I mean that won't work either, but...

"badly explain your fursona"

um... look, the *accurate* explanation is "post-ego-collapse refugee dinosaur from an alternate dimension, who used to be a Martian paleontologist," so

account note: if I boost a toot that has a picture or gif that isn't captioned, I *pledge* to immediately follow it up with a non-@ reply describing the image.

also: if you can, please, PLEASE caption the images and gifs you post? if you can't, it's okay, but if you can, please do.

oh is it #introductions time again already?

* furry-adjacent saurian/dragonkin
* bitey, with feathers
* green hair
* #agender (they/them or zie/zir)
* currently ace/aro
* historically #polyamorous
* intermittent #writer mostly of #fanfic
* lifelong depressive disorder, currently mostly in remission
* #oneiromancer
* occasionally posts about "woo-stuff" (magic/spirituality/weirdness)
* frequently posts about wildlife (birds, coyotes, squirrels)
* 2 adorable #cats
* 1 adorable #spouse

Hasty plans are made, and combat ensues.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/72804894

the beginning of the final fight scene!

#AmWriting

@InspectorCaracal sent Siuphai to visit Pinch, but the site says "Current Quest: Heading for SQL error: (1064) You have an error in your SQL syntax; check the manual that corresponds to your MariaDB server version for the right syntax to use near '' at line 1" this doesn't seem to have stopped the questing, but I thought you should know!

Ideas are accepted, and another journey is begun.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/72181440

includes the promised summary of the previous chapter as a note at the beginning, for those who wished to skip the explicit sex scene.

#AmWriting

Truth and trust grow as they are shared.

CW: This chapter contains an explicit sex scene. If you would prefer to skip it, I will post a synopsis of other information given in this chapter in the note at the beginning of the next chapter.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/71997450

#AmWriting

A barrier is removed, and some possibilities explored.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/71705394

CW: This chapter contains non-explicit nudity.

#AmWriting

@GryphonSiupaiphai off you go, on your new quest! 💚

@FrontDesk adopt GryphonSiupaiphai

Another expedition, and some explanations.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/71485755

#AmWriting

I have come to my conclusions from listening and watching, and some of them have hurt. there are people I... enjoyed interacting with, who I don't enjoy interacting with any more, having read what they write, having seen their behavior.

just... pay attention. read what's being written, and notice especially who is saying what, and *who they're saying it to*. notice who they are *not* replying to. notice *how* they respond to different people, with different avatars, backgrounds, and bios. listen to the justifications, all of them. listen to the reasons for actions taken, and actions not taken.

take notes for your own records, if it'll help you keep track. I haven't. my memory isn't perfect, and it doesn't help that I have a particularly bad memory for names/handles. but I remember patterns of behavior. I have seen these patterns play out multiple times, with some of the same people, over and over.

if you come to a different conclusion than I have, or if you can't come to a conclusion at all... that's all right. just remember, the next time it comes around--and *it will*. remember what you saw this time, the next time it plays out.

Reassurances are given, both official and unofficial, and another trip is planned.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/71196132

(tbh it never made sense to me, in the movie "Thor," that it was assumed when Thor was banished and Odin fell into a coma, Loki should automatically and immediately become king, when Frigga was *right there*. why not make her at least regent, if they believed Odin was going to wake up pretty soon? it was never even addressed in the movie. so, I fixed it, nyah.)

While trying to make sense of a confusing situation, preparations are made for a worst-case scenario.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/70850736

the penny hits the ground!

#amwriting

what she *didn't* do:

* tell the other people who were there that what they were doing was wrong because it upset her
* stay despite her discomfort and insist her friends shelter her from the behavior that upset her
* tell us (her friends) that we were bad people because we were into something that made her uncomfortable
* tell us (her friends) that she thought we were "unsafe" because we were into something that made her uncomfortable
* GO BACK SIX MONTHS LATER AND DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN.

I *strongly* support people making boundaries and enforcing them, even if it means that we can't share some activities, even if it means we can't talk about some things. but it is *your responsibility* to establish and maintain your own boundaries as well. and maybe, if BDSM fetish stuff upsets you? maybe, just *possibly*, building your social life around people who go there and do that and spending all your time hanging around the doorway to the club and constantly having fits of the vapors about *those people* doing *those things* *in there* is not the best idea.

a long time ago, I used to go out dancing with friends fairly often. we liked our usual club, but we were always looking for new venues. and then we discovered that a local fetish club had a dance night, which featured exactly the kind of music we liked, but since they didn't serve alcohol on the premises we could dance barefoot, and that was a big attraction. as part of the deal, because it was after all a fetish club, there was also space for folks to be doing BDSM-style scenes--not up front and center, but it was in the same space.

most of my friend group was into that kind of stuff so we were like "aw hell yeah!" but one person had been in an abusive relationship in the past and wasn't sure. after we went the first night, she asked us what it had been like, and we did our best to explain the details. she decided to give it a try the next night the dance party was held. and, while she enjoyed the music and the general atmosphere, there was a scene going on that pushed some of her buttons. we were keeping an eye on her, and when she needed to go we helped her out, took her home, and supported her. and after that, she didn't go back. (cont.)

my personal opinions about kobolds:

I LOVE 'EM. they're super fun to play as 5th Ed. D&D characters, I love the depth and understanding that's been put into their society in the current edition, it makes them *make sense* in a way that previous versions never really bothered. I think of them as basically miniature dragonkin, in the same way that domestic cats are miniature tigers. 💚 I think my next character is going to be a kobold monk. TINY FLYING FISTS OF FURY

... oh it's *that* person. upsetting other people with their own *extremely* poor boundaries, unexamined anxieties, and quick judgements completely devoid of context or nuance. and, gosh, look, it's on a subject that I remember having *that exact conversation* with *that exact person* several *months* ago. tally hey, thanks for the reinforcement that delisting and blocking them was 100% the right call! 👍

Various forms of communication cause varying sorts of trouble.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/70620987
(aka "the penny has dropped but it hasn't hit the ground just yet...")
#amwriting

I looked into the office yesterday and Raziel was just lying like that. this isn't an action shot; he held this pose for about five more minutes after I came into the room. just... dangling one paw over the edge of the cat tree, just... hanging out. XD #mastocats

The investigating trio find themselves caught up in a dangerous situation.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/16125740/chapters/70524765

(another action/fight scene!)

#amwriting

if you wanna follow this tooter
you gotta send a dm
reqs from unannounced strangers
go right in the bin

if you wanna follow this tooter
you have got to read
it's the capslock in my handle
a DM's all I need!!

(unless I'm already following you, in which case I'll auto-accept)