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Hey ,

This is my last message as an admin of vulpine.club.

It began as a weekend project, something cool to play with, to fill up time between jobs.

Then others showed up. And we became friends. And we became a community.

We built a decidedly queer space, atop radical acceptance and boundaries and consent and respect and love.

What started as a novelty became a safe space, a judgement-free place for self-exploration, for myself and for so many others.

This was the first community where I was Rey, 100% of the time. This was the first community where I've felt *normal* for being into the things I'm into, for loving folks like I do, for being _me_.

But at some point, it began to feel like v.c was usurping my identity. Being "Rey, the Vulpine Club admin" became awkward and uncomfortable. This isn't who I *am*... I am so much more.

I've also struggled with the conflict between having responsibility for the safety of this community, and being in personal intimate relationships with a substantial part of it.

So, I figure it's time to turn in my badge and pun, and leave things in the paws of the best admins, mods, and friends I could leave y'all with: Sariya and Clara.

I love you all. You are such beautiful and amazing critters. Thank you for being here with me <3

P.S. I'll still be around, you betcha

rtucker@smithwicks:~/vulpine.club/mastodon$ docker-compose run --rm web tootctl accounts modify rey --role=user

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@rey :grey_fox:​💛​

Thanks for the all the hard work and love you've put into this place.

Even if I've had my little quibbles (let's face it- I like quibbling), if it weren't for you and V.C., I wouldn't have met a lot of cool people.

@rey this place has had a profound impact on my life over the past six months. i probably wouldn't have stuck around if it weren't for the kindness of you and a few other members reaching out to me when i was new. you've put in so much work into this place, and it shows. thank you for that, and i hope things can be less stressful for you now. :blobcatheart:

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@rey imma be real i dont really know you very well but you've seemed to be really rad, hope to see you around evermore ^^

@rey 💜💜 thanks for being a cool admin in this community while you were!!

@rey so long, and thanks for all the fish! except don't leave thanks <3

@rey Thank you so much, Rey. For being here, for building this space, and for trusting us not to accidentally set it on fire. We’ll do our best.

Happy retirement. <3

@rey thanks for always being welcoming and kind to other admins (like me)! and i'm glad you're still sticking around, admin or not

@rey You've done amazing work that you have every right and reason to be proud of ❤️

Thank you for knowing when you were ready to move on. Far too many people in similar situations burn themselves out and deathmarch forward until it ruins them. D:

@mawr i think one of the big things I've learned over the last year or so is that it's okay to let go of things, it's okay to move on even if it's "not that bad." Experience tells me that it will get worse

So, I planned for this, and basically made myself more-or-less redundant.

Now I can focus on the important things, like getting v.c stickers made *finally* :rey_joy:

@rey This place is good stuff, Rey. Thanks for getting the ball rolling so well.

@rey I haven't been around too super long, and I'm far from a prolific user... but thank you very much for this space and all your effort.
Lookin' forward to continuing to lick your content 'cause you're great ^__^~

@rey No admin could ever fully replace you though. You were a great administrator. <3

@rey you are an awesome person that did an awesome job as an admin and are generally pretty neat in general. :D

@rey it took me a while to figure out what I wanted to say

thank you. thank you for starting and running vulpine club. thank you for starting an instance that had and has admins i at least know from a distance and trust. thank you for giving me somewhere better than the bird site to be. i hope things go well for you not being the admin anymore. maybe I'll manage to get over my anxiety and talk with you more, maybe. i don't know. thank you for looking out for yourself and your happiness. thank you.

@myst <3

this has been one of the most wholesome and fulfilling experiences of my life

i literally made a thing, and then all of you beautiful creatures started using it

thank you for being here, thank you for sharing your life with us

and i want to meet you some day... i am already short on travel budget/spoons and idk when I'll end up in your neck of the woods, but it remains a goal ^^

@rey
Rey, you were an amazing catmin. Thank you so much for spending the time to keep the community going. The value v.c has had in my life is rather upsettingly large :) You built out a wonderful space and I've enjoyed getting to know you and the other members of the community over the past year and a half.

I'm sad you got boxed. I'm glad you found a way to deal with that box to allow your self exploration. I'm glad you're sticking around and I look forward to punning around with you in the future :3

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