clara sparks @mxsparks@vulpine.club

OMG i just realized that with a little luck in the HRT department, this could resurrect one of my old Transition Goals (tm):

name: Clarity (or was it Clara?)
pronouns: i think she said "they/them"
presentation: tomboy femme (+/-)
transness: visible from 1000 yards away
assigned gender: idk??? it's not like i can just walk up and *ask* her -- wait no, i can't just ask *them*

minor life goal: be described as "that tall drink of water with the glasses, the sensible shoes, and the wry smile, oh come on you've been stealing glances at each other all night, if you don't go over and talk to them i will"

i will make this happen, even if i have to put it in my own author bio 😹​

it's pronounced:
1️⃣​ "jay-sun"
2️⃣​ "jay-sawn"
3️⃣​ "jissen"

My driver's license came in the mail today, and the photo is atrocious, but the name and gender marker are spot-on!

so i'm writing my first Twine, and my current working title is "The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook, Allyship Edition: Oh No, I Just Misgendered Someone!"

Alexa: she/her
Siri: is genderfluid, ask the user
Ok Google: they/them (plural)

the catch-22 is that when someone genders you properly, you never know if that's really how they see you, or if they're just being polite by applying a manual override

and when they misgender you on purpose, screw 'em, who cares what they think

but when that malice is absent, and it obviously just never crossed their mind that you might even be trans ...

well, you know how hard it is to get honest feedback in this world, how can i be mad at someone for providing that? 😞

love too watch the honest surprise and confusion on the face of the DMV clerk when i ask him not to call me "sir" and it takes him a good 5 seconds to figure out what i meant

and then later on i had to remind him that i was changing my gender marker as well as my name

and i know "looking cis" is out of reach for me, but ... can't i at least get out of "looking so much like a cis man that it outweighs everything about my presentation and even the boldfaced text on my paperwork?"

drsparks (who is very good at LaTeX): yeah this one conference has a really ugly documentclass

me: why would they bother rolling their own instead of just using IEEEtran

drsparks (who has Strong Opinions about LaTeX classes): you only like IEEEtran because it's named after you

me: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ​

https://twitter.com/sparksjoyinyou/status/1006710291252568069

tired: ${unspellable_old_lastname}@{work.com,school.edu}
wired: clarity@{work.com,school.edu}

really feel like i've beaten the system here ​

transition achievement unlocked: ordered my first @dataerase tank top

Flight to the Hall of the Bumblebee King, by Nikolai Rimsky-Korsakov (arranged by Edvard Grieg)