I think the best part about working with children is learning to play again

Early in our teens we stop playing. Society has this idea that play, at least improvised play, is only for children, and something we naturally grow out of. The only sort of "play" that is seen as "appropriate" for adults are organized games with set rules, and usually a goal

Anyway, that's BS. Today, I played with marbles. I built a tower out of building blocks. Last week, I drew a picture - not to "create" anything, just to have fun with pencils on paper. One day when I was not actually at work, I went to a playground to climb on a 2-meter-high rock. It was difficult (how did i do this when i was little??) and I was proud of myself when i did it

I can't believe I'm only 19 and have already missed out on this for half my life. And the only way I can accept that is if I promise myself that I'll never stop playing again

"Work" is defined as an activity directed towards a goal

I'd say "play" is the opposite of that - any activity that you do for the sake of the activity itself, without aiming towards a "goal"

We have this idea that work is for adults, play is for kids. As we grow up, we turn everything into a goal-directed activity.

We play a sport to win, or to stay healthy. We draw to create something beautiful. We cook to make food. We climb an obstacle to get to the other side. We read a book to finish it. We watch a movie in the evening to relax, and then are confused when we can't.

Capitalism brainwashes you into thinking that you've grown out of playing. It wants you to think that you can't possibly enjoy an activity for its own sake anymore, so you need an "incentive"

Don't fall for it, and play as often as you can

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@ijyx Thank you for putting this out there.... we're.... people have been asking us (therapists, psychologists, friends) what we do that we enjoy, including one time earlier today when we were in a call with our psych and he asked "So what do you do for fun? What activities do you enjoy?" and we just stopped and thought about it until he asked "Hello? You still there?" and we realized we had spent 5 minutes trying and failing to come up with an activity.

You're absolutely right that everything has become goal oriented. We try and learn new things but only because we feel accomplished afterwards....

We don't know how to have fun.... we honestly can barely remember even doing so when we were younger.... Honestly not sure where to even start anymore, but we've definitely got something to think about, so thank you.

The real trick will be trying to do thing for the sake of doing it and not trying to have fun if that makes sense.

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