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Analogy for helping understand some variants of asexuality 

"thestarlesswanderer" writes:
> Being asexual is like being born without a sense of smell but everywhere you go people are spraying perfume in your face and when you ask them to stop and tell them it’s irritating and you can’t smell the perfume anyway they get huffy and respond with “Don’t lie to me; I can clearly see you have a nose. Everybody has a nose therefore everybody smells things and besides maybe you just haven’t found the right scent yet.” and then you want to scream

Source: cupcakearrow.tumblr.com/post/1

This seems like one decent for being . Your experience may differ, of course (and others are welcome to smell as much perfume as they want, just.. I don't).

Granted, this unintentionally implies ace folks are missing an experience when I'm not sure that's the right feeling (there's some difference between lacking a sensory perception and lacking sexual interest - analogies ain't perfect).

Analogy for helping understand some variants of asexuality 

@digitalfox Attraction is a perception too. It's just less "bare metal".

I think it's more healthy to normalize the idea of "missing experiences" not being a problem. People who aren't furries are missing the experience of being a furry. People who don't like metal are missing the experience of being a Metalhead. People who don't cosplay are missing the experience of being a cosplayer. There's nothing wrong with any of these people.

re: Analogy for helping understand some variants of asexuality 

@dipolecat Hmm, that's a very good point. I might personally add sports to the list - it's awesome that some folks find it fulfilling and rewarding; I.. struggle to follow along and would rather solo walk or a ride a bike.

I agree with your remark.

re: Analogy for helping understand some variants of asexuality 

@digitalfox It's great for that specific analogy, and I know at least one other critter who is completely disinterested -because- they don't get anything out of it. If it's not fun for you, why bother when a million other things are?

But I've come across others where it's either situational or touchy. There might be trauma, or it might be -extremely- mood dependent. That's how you get the gray and demi crowds. Some days the perfume might smell like paradise, others it might smell like a regurgitating toilet. Others still it might... not.

re: Analogy for helping understand some variants of asexuality 

@Kyresti Noted! I appreciate your context on how you've observed others feel about it - that extension seems to make sense.

And this something I need to keep in mind - I may be sex-repulsed (if that's the right word), but those who aren't can still fall within/towards the ace side of the gender spectrum.

(Part of my long hesitation with identifying with asexuality is trying to not come across as excluding others or gatekeeping - there's a lot I'm still learning!)

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