Mental Health (-), letting go of past relations Show more
The problem with trying to remain ignorant of any former relations' fun is eventually something will end that ignorance.
I'm still determining whether it's better to randomly stumble into evidence when one's not emotionally prepared, or to try to brace oneself and proactively find out so the impact's dampened for later times.
(Ideally I'd simply not care at all, I'm working towards that, it just doesn't yet seem feasible.)
Unsolicited advice Show more
Some things that are true for me, that may or may not be true for you:
* Bracing oneself and looking proactively at things can become addictive and habitual self-destructive behavior.
* But avoidance also sucks and crystallizes the bad feels.
I have no clue how to accelerate the healing, other than going to therapy. I just recommend using moderation to any approach, and hopefully breaking any rumination habits before they start.
re: Unsolicited advice Show more
@Kaltren Thank you for your time.
I'll keep in mind some form of moderation; I've kind of gone to both ends of avoidance and preemptive finding out, and it mirrors what you said (depressing or self-destructive), not aided by lacking self-esteem. Balance is.. not yet known. But I'll keep trying.
Likewise, I'm going to therapy, just taking longer to convey the situation than I expected.
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