Assertive 1st-person self-care
You may have hurt many people unwittingly, even when explicitly trying to help them.
You may be struggling with a lot of emotional pain that's nobody's fault, so you dump the hate on yourself, fake a smile, be the happy fellow others want around.
Your problems may be utterly insignificant compared to the horrors that others deal with.
But you are NOT a failure. You may still be a net benefit to others, and more importantly, to yourself.
The Vulpine Club is a friendly and welcoming community of foxes and their associates, friends, and fans! =^^=