@Roxy yeah!! I don't want to shame people for a past they aren't still living, but "sure I did it, everyone does it" is often a red flag for what it's willing to excuse

I dunno if there's much bad in this case, but I'm still not a fan of pretending it was everyone and therefore, morally, no one.

@Roxy it sounds like the perception of someone who grew up around so much of it that it was all they saw most of anyone doing, who hasn't yet realized that other people growing up in better circumstances weren't necessarily subjected to the same amount of peer pressure to do terrible shit that they were. given the nature of how having that in your past can mess with your head after you've grown out of it / how brutal some of those circumstances can be, it could also be a way of simply avoiding facing the trauma of it, or the depression that comes with realizing that things *could've* been better for them, but weren't

but yes, it *is* plainly incorrect to say so, and obviously it can strike some folks who've not had those experiences as unsettling in the ways you describe